3 Reasons Why Losing Weight WON’T Make You Happy

Background: In January 2017 I got my first big girl job in Myrtle Beach. It was my first move aside from college (which was 30 minutes away so that one might not even count!). Rewind to August of 2016, my grandmother, my mom, my sister and I set off on a 28 day long road trip leaving on the day before my 22nd birthday. It was one of the best months of my life and one I will cherish forever. After we got home and we got the pictures back, I didn’t recognize myself; I had gained almost 50 pounds. I’m not going to get into semantics of when I gained the weight because I’m not sure. 2015 and 2016 were both rough years for me. I lost 5 friends and a family member in a year and a half and honestly, I lost a part of myself during the grieving process. When I moved I saw the opportunity to take my life back, and that’s exactly what I did.  Currently I am 30 pounds down and countless inches, looking and feeling miles better than I did.  Now, for the good stuff and what you probably came for lol

1. Real FIMG_6313eelings Come to Surface– As the days of binging on Ben and Jerry’s and popcorn came to an end, I started to realize how the food I was eating wasn’t the only unhealthy thing about my relationship with food. In church, they always talked about idols but, I never knew that food could be considered one! After stressful days, rather than praying or getting in the Word, I would open up my pint of Chunky Monkey and revel in the comfort. Fast forward to now: since I practice moderation (most of the time lol) I don’t have the safety net of food to come home to. It forces me to think about the things I don’t want to face, talk about, or even think about. I love how it really challenges me to rely on the Lord for that comfort. Even though He isn’t as tangible as the brownie batter core of another one of my favorite pints, He is inspiring some growing pains just so I can have a stronger relationship with Him.

2.Good Progress is SLOW Progress- In the times of ‘I need it now,’ one of the most frustrating aspect of my weight loss journey is the lack of instant gratification. It pains me when I see pins or ads for ‘Lose 20 pounds in 2 weeks’ or any of the similar titles reinforcing the idea that healthy weight loss is easy.  News flash y’all: IT’S NOT THAT EASY. It takes time. It takes some struggling. It IMG_6312takes a constant effort. If you’re anything like me, you’re going to want results and want them NOW. (Anyone else say that like Veruca Salt from Charlie and the Chocolate because I did lol) The Lord has blessed me with a lot, but anyone who knows me knows that patience is something I have to work hard for. What I’ve failed to realize is that while I believe that I am ‘suffering’ through this time of lifestyle changes the Lord is giving it purpose. Romans 5:2-4 says, “Through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which now we stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only that but we rejoice in our sufferings knowing that suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character and character produces hope.” Needless to say, I have tried to shift my focus from the time this journey is taking, to what this journey is ultimately producing.

3. Discovering your TRUE ‘Why?’- I want to preface this section with the fact that I struggle with Body Dysmorphia. When I look in the mirror, I am preoccupied by all of the flaws that I perceive in my appearance. Even though in the Songs of Solomon it says ‘He calls me beautiful oneI don’t physically see it. When I go to the store I often still shop in the plus size section of stores or pull the wrong size of clothes off the rack because I still believe it fits me even after losing 30 pounds! Nothing is more depressing to me than looking into a mirror and not seeing the resuIMG_6307lts of all your hard work while others can. If you were to ask me last February when I first started my journey what my “why” was I would say “to get healthy and live a better lifestyle.” But, now If I’m being 110% vulnerable and honest, I would say because I hated my body. I loathed myself. I thought about all my failure, flaws, and vulnerabilities and projected them onto my body. All of the negative energy manifested into a deep disgust for my image which is why I started my weight loss journey. Unfortunately, even after I lost 15+ pounds I still felt the same way. I still avoided mirrors and being in pictures. I dressed frumpy because I was portraying the image I had for myself by dressing that way. The last thing I want to do is get sappy because the former me would want to punch now me in the face by ending this paragraph with this verse. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”  Psalm 139:14 In today’s society it’s so easy to forget that you are a child of the God who created the hills and valleys, the stars and the moon, the mountains and the depths of the sea. Even writing that I can’t get over it!

Closing thoughts: I didn’t mean for this to discourage you from losing weight or making healthier lifestyle choices. I wish I had the ability to check the position of my heart when I started in January, but through it all I grew closer to God. While, I didn’t get (and still don’t get all the time) instant gratification, it taught me to celebrate the smaller things in life. In turn, that gave me a heightened ability to worship the Lord in ways I didn’t realize were possible. It filled my heart with gratitude and reminded me that our lives as believers weren’t designed to be easy. We’re designed to ultimately give glory to God and be living servants.  Just remember,  no matter how good the numbers are or how good you look, your heart might be the thing that needs to lose some weight.

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  1. Way to go girl!! I agree with what you said here, “no matter how good the numbers are or how good you look, your heart might be the thing that needs to lose some weight.” It is always a “heart issue” that needs to be taken care of first. You have to find your worth in God and understand that no matter what you look like on the outside, it only matters about the inside. One you get the inside cleaned up, then you become mentally healthier as well.

  2. “Even though He isn’t as tangible as the brownie batter core of another one of my favorite pints, He is inspiring some growing pains just so I can have a stronger relationship with Him.” this was my favorite of the whole article. He might not be tangible, but His presence is so tangible. Keep going sister!

    • Thank you! I’ve been working on focusing on “nonscale victories” like being able to fully wrap one towel around myself after showers or clothes fitting looser. That way there are more victories to celebrate 😉

  3. I share your struggles with emotional eating and comfort food, and I get frustrated with my slow progress. I’m trying to learn to focus on stewarding my health and honoring God with my body rather than improving my appearance.

  4. You are so right in sayaing that losing weight won’t make us happy. Being healthy is a choice as is being happy. The two aren’t always connected as much as we think.

  5. Losing weight from the pointing of hating how you look is such an impairment to everyday life. But, doing it for His glory impacts joy all around. The fact that you got close to Him matters and counts more than anything else.

  6. This is such an honest and true post! Our food habits are so much more tied to our emotions that we usually realize or want to acknowledge. You’re doing awesome!

  7. Beautiful insight into the journey to a healthier you, my friend! It’s not easy (I lost 50 pounds that I gained during my husband’s cancer journey). It took time and requires maintenance and new ways of looking at myself.

  8. I applaud you for your courage to express these thoughts and emotion to the public and I think I a lot of people need to hear this and know they’re not alone. Also your ability to reflect upon your life in a rational way to deduct the issues that hold you back. So many people in our society struggle with suffering for gratification when it’s so easy to get instant gratification with the push of a button. The ability to take a step back and look at the big picture, to mark your successes and use them as emotional fuel to keep striving towards the ultimate goal. The development of persistence and perseverance are the keys to discipline. This is really inspiring and I wish you the best of luck and I know you have it in you to accomplish anything. Just don’t give up or look back. Always look forward and fill your thoughts with positive ones. Thoughts affect actions which effect reactions. You’re awesome.

  9. This brought tears to my eyes because you are so RIGHT ON! I myself am on a journey towards learning to love and see myself the way Jesus does; it’s so hard to change my perception of myself after years of self-loathing. But God is so kind and has been working in me to bring about the changes in my heart and mind. I’m definitely a work in progress and have weight to lose, but God, in his kindness, brings inspiring stories like yours along my path to remind me that he’s not done with me yet!! God bless you and thank you for sharing your story!❤️

    • Hi Patty Anne! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so much easier said than done, but that’s what I love about the Lord is that he isn’t finished yet! I’ll definitely be praying for you in your journey 🙂 You got this!!

  10. What a wise perspective! I think this is something that should be shouted from the rooftops. The mental game can be a tricky thing that we don’t realize we’re a slave to most days. Thanks for sharing your journey!

    • With society today it is so hard to maintain a holy mindset and to constantly believe that God’s opinion and view of ourselves is greater than ours. My pleasure 🙂

  11. There is so much truth here!! Being skinny doesn’t make us happy. True joy comes from Jesus. Our weight is just a number.

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